She assured me that she wouldn’t lie to me about it, but then I find her Facebook posts that contradict what she told me previously.I know their relationship is none of my business, and if they end up happy together this time around, then more power to them.
If it is a rush and the secrecy is what’s keeping it going, your feelings might get hurt, but it may be able to spare her feelings and keep the friendship intact. Or the two of you can become even closer, but keep in mind that you need to set boundaries. you know, “Oh last night we totally messed around in a movie.” She’s NOT going to want to hear what you and him are up to. And definitely start slow with the displays of affection in front of her.People don’t keep stuff — especially good stuff like being in a happy relationship — from those they’re close to unless they’re afraid of hurting or being judged by them. Perhaps that’s something to think about and work on…As for Meg telling you she had a job training to go to and then posting a picture on Facebook of her with your brother, so go to a job training (she could have hung out with your brother afterward…But how do I let her know, gently, that I don’t appreciate being lied to?She can be rather manipulative at times, and twist things so she can believe that the problem is not her fault.